Love Warrior
“To know yourself and own yourself—
and live from that—
that’s empowerment.”
– Jaiya
The powerful words above
from my mentor—
world-renowned Somatic Sexologist
and creator of the Erotic Blueprints™️,
Jaiya—
are potent medicine, especially now,
for the liberation of us all.
To know yourself and own who you are…
and express it—freely—
that’s solid gold power
that No one can take away from you.
We connect to the power of our Eros…
by re-membering the Divinity
of our wildness…
by going deep
within the cradle of the forest
and RESTING in Her arms…
by connecting
to the Holy Space of our creativity
and creating positive change in the world…
by honoring the resonance of our voice
and speaking our truth…
by reclaiming BEing IN p.leasure
as our natural state of Being…
by living and loving
from the golden radiance of our hearts…
by creating balance and Union
through the Holy marriage and embodiment
of the masculine and feminine within us all…
by celebrating wildly and out loud
when we witness others
doing the same…
in re-membering that we ARE
Eros itself.
Our primal Eros reveals
Herself
in these sacred moments.
It IS our essence,
and expressed,
it becomes an open path
to the Divine.
Our vibrant pro-creative energy
moves everything
toward togetherness…
and our true erotic power
is re-awakened,
re-charged,
re-newed.
Reclaiming my s xxuality
after menopause
took me deep into the shadows
of my pain, shame & traumas—
transforming them
into power-full medicinal allies
for my sacred healing.
It also reAwakened me
to my W(holiness)—
to the Holy Space
of my sacred womb
which now holds on to my bleeds.
It re-ignited
the blazing fire of my inner flame
and £.r0tic aliveness—
re-connecting me to the Source
of my Divine power and creativity—
re-minding me
in ALL of my glorious
BEing
that
I…You…We…
were created
from the magnificent, infinite
cosmic space
of orgazzzmic
Bliss.
In other words…
It’s a toxic patriarchal myth
that after menopause, we’re washed-up,
dried-up, invisible beings who no longer
have any interest in s xxx.
Yes, indeed,
there are certainly stages of healing
and transition through which we move
and to which we adjust
as our aging bodies change.
But as we learn to navigate
through the inevitable changes
and open up to explore what our unique bodies
need to be aroused—communicating clearly
with our partners what we need and desire—
being “£.r0tically Alive after 55”
is nothing short of holy fire!
Lovers…
Do me a favor
and let’s go on an impromptu
“pleasure hunt”
with each other.
You game?
Perfect.
Now, take a conscious breathing moment
to get IN touch and present
with yourself…
deeply inhaling in
and slowwwly exhaling out…ahhhhh, yessss
Standing
in the decadent resonance
of my authentic voice…
I speak my truth and desires
effortlessly into existence.
I’m not on the planet to play small.
I’m here to take up as much farking space
as I desire and lead the way for others
to do the same or even better—
especially older women
who’ve been put in the closet
by archaic societal conditioning
to become invisible
as their physical skinbags wither and age.
F*ck that shyte.
Mama’s not going in the closet.
I refuse to shrink and become invisible.
Continue reading “The Older I Become…the Brighter My Essence Glows”Are you fluent in playing all 88 keys of your instrument? Your body, that is—the divinely created instrument uniquely designed to give and receive pleasure.
The more fluent you are as a lover to your own body, the better you can teach your partner how your body desires to be played.
Tip o’ the hat to John Mayer, because Yessss, it’s true—your body is, indeed, a “Wonderland.”
Continue reading “How does your body like to be played?”
Beloveds…let’s just get real. What is it that lights you the fu*k up? What are the passions that get your inner fires blazing? What breaks your heart wide open and moves you to make a freakin’ difference in the world? What does the world need that only you can bring?
Let me tell you how you start to figure it out. You reclaim your access to your divine £rotic Power and fall madly in love with yourself…every.single.piece&part…your perfectly imperfect delicious body, your exquisitely brilliantly curious mind, and your deeply loving heart-centric soul. And then you tend the fires of the creative radiance inside you…until you are burning with a passion to share your gifts with the world.
Because whatever your unique gift is…the world needs it. Now. Stop playing so small and share the fark out of your LoveLight.
And hey…I love you.
Menopause hit me like a freight train running. And before I knew it, I was in the murky swamp of post-menopause, with no signs of a libido: feeling old, tired, invisible and thinking I was completely dried up not only sexually, but it totally felt as though my life-light was going out.
The sudden waxing and waning of my hormones was wreaking havoc on my body, mind and soul. And what the hell was happening to my sexy hotness that usually turned heads when I walked into the room? Oh my gawd, I was becoming invisible. It was happening. I was becoming, and lean in as I whisper it, an old lady.
Shhhhhhhh…I had to keep it a secret. I wasn’t quite ready for the transition.
Growing up on stage as a performer since I was a child, I was quite aware of the unfortunate conditioned construct placed upon female performers that once they start aging, they’re in danger of being unattractive and all washed up, and becoming invisible.
I was feeling it.
The patriarchy has done quite the number on people in general around our sexuality, but especially on older self-identified women in leading us to believe that we lose ownership of our erotic power as we get older.
It’s a myth, y’all.
I discovered this for certain when I was introduced to the teachings of the Erotic Blueprints™️ and boom, mama literally got her groove back!
The more I immersed myself in the teachings, the more I cleared shadows of childhood sexual abuse and returned to a profound love of self.
I’ve never felt more vibrantly alive and free; not only in my sexuality, but I see it showing up in all areas of my life.
I want this for everyone on the planet.
We’re not socially conditioned to put pleasure as a priority in our lives. We’re conditioned to obey authority, work long hours, waste our money on material things we think will make us happy, and we’re conditioned to squelch our natural primal sexual desires. However, putting pleasure first, especially our sexual pleasure, keeps us vibrantly alive and in our full power. Being in touch with our “Pleasure Dome” keeps us in successful relationships with our partners, as well as ourselves.
We’ve been taught to believe that sexual pleasure is taboo, bad, sinful and something we just don’t freely talk about. We’re offered a bare minimum, inadequate or even medically incorrect sex education in middle school, then left to figure it out on our own as we haphazardly make our way through romantic relationships, partnerships, marriages, separations and divorces. In the ancient days of some cultures, young men and women were schooled in the art of sex and how to pleasure themselves and their partners. It’s a shame the art of giving and receiving pleasure has been lost in the western culture; especially since being fully expressed sexually keeps us happy, loving and living a life that is radiantly vibrant.
Continue reading “Reclaiming the Pleasure Dome”And here’s a nugget of awakening: It’s an absolute myth that sexual pleasure stops at a certain age and that as we get older we’re no longer sexually vital or attractive with our wrinkles, age spots and sagging skin.
“Sexuality is a superpower. Our attractions and repulsions, sexual signals and links, hopes and disappointments go through all of society like a nervous system, permeating every office, every shopping mall, every art exhibition, every conference, every group, every company, every political party. The healing of sexuality is perhaps the most revolutionary step in the present healing work after thousands of years of suppression and neglect.”
DIETER DUHM
There are so many beautiful “rooms” in the Pleasure Dome that have been hidden to us by society’s patriarchal conditioning that sexual pleasure is dirty, forbidden, sinful and taboo. But, this is the thing…sexual pleasure is our birthright. At our core, as my teacher and mentor Jaiya has so eloquently expressed, “we are erotically sophisticated beings and our bodies are our instruments of pleasure,” yet most of us do not fully understand how to play our own instrument nor how to instruct our partners on how to do so.
A true understanding of the power of the primordial creative force of our sexuality has been kept from us by the patriarchal religions as a means of domination and control. When we are deeply connected to the sacredness of our sexuality and living a fully sex-expressed life, all areas of our life are affected in a profoundly powerful way. When we are connected to and own our full sexuality, we are living a life filled with vitality, power, pleasure, joy, sovereignty, and most of all, deep love for ourselves and humanity.
Here’s to humanity’s reconnecting to the source of our true power, breaking through the chains of society’s conditioning, and creating a world where everyone is accepted and feels as though they belong. Let freedom ring.
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“Chains…each link is connected…creating strength and resilience to withstand the impending….granting a since of freedom…” ~Jefry
BethLovemore 