How does your body like to be played?

Are you fluent in playing all 88 keys of your instrument? Your body, that is—the divinely created instrument uniquely designed to give and receive pleasure.

The more fluent you are as a lover to your own body, the better you can teach your partner how your body desires to be played.

Tip o’ the hat to John Mayer, because Yessss, it’s true—your body is, indeed, a Wonderland.”

One of the most frequent complaints my clients have when they come to me is that, despite a happy partnership, when it comes to their sex life…

…they’re completely unaware of what turns their OWN body ON, much less their partner’s body.

Dear lovers…come here.

I’ve got the codes to help you break yourselves open to new realms of your s xuality you didn’t even know you were craving!

With the life-altering teachings of the Erotic Blueprints ™ as our foundation, I guide you through a deep dive into…

• how you’re wired for arousal

• what turns your body on and what turns it off

• how to feed yourself and your lover in each of your blueprints

• peeling back the layers and integrating any shadows showing up as limiting beliefs

• breaking yourself open to a deep love of self

• reclaiming your voice in speaking your needs with your partner and in all areas of your life

• setting you up for juicy, blazing s x for a lifetime!

…and so so so much more…

Click here to take the free or in-depth Erotic Blueprint Quiz!

Note! (From 11/30/22 to 12/5/22, please use promotional code Love to take advantage of the special pricing of the “In-Depth” quiz for only $9!)

Click here to schedule a discovery call to work with me privately or to schedule a 1:1 full day Erotic Blueprint Immersion here with me in Asheville.

PS…I have holiday specials in the bag as we speak! Contact me for more info on my holiday offerings!

Reclaiming Your Sacred Queen Cronedom

When I’m working with people who’ve lost their connection to their sexuality…especially older beings who self-identify as women, I ask them, “if you could have whatever you wanted and desired around your sex life, what would that look like to you?”

Most of the time, they have no idea. We aren’t accustomed to asking ourselves what we really want around our sexuality because we’ve spent a lifetime of settling—shrinking from our power—


by our internalized patriarchal conditioning of thinking that we can’t or are not allowed to ask for what we desire…and actually have it.

Deep within our DNA, we still carry the wounds of our ancestors who were burned at the stake for standing in their power. The whispers of this ancient wounding in our bones has so often kept our voices quiet.

And by our not asking, we have been disconnected from the power of our inner fire and vital life force—

our sacred sexuality—

and not only disconnected to what that creative energy brings to ourselves, but what the Divine power of our sacred sexuality as older women brings to the world.


Are you ready to reclaim your voice and have whatever you desire around your sexuality…and in all areas of your life?

What are you waiting for?

Come deep dive into a delicious 6 month immersion of who you are as an Erotic Being as we explore the life-altering teachings of the Erotic Blueprints™️ .

Click link HERE to schedule a free Erotic Power Breakthrough session to see if we’re a good fit to journey together.

What Fuels Your Love-Light?

Beloveds…let’s just get real. What is it that lights you the fu*k up? What are the passions that get your inner fires blazing? What breaks your heart wide open and moves you to make a freakin’ difference in the world? What does the world need that only you can bring?

Let me tell you how you start to figure it out. You reclaim your access to your divine £rotic Power and fall madly in love with yourself…every.single.piece&part…your perfectly imperfect delicious body, your exquisitely brilliantly curious mind, and your deeply loving heart-centric soul. And then you tend the fires of the creative radiance inside you…until you are burning with a passion to share your gifts with the world.

Because whatever your unique gift is…the world needs it. Now. Stop playing so small and share the fark out of your LoveLight.
And hey…I love you.

*If you’re ready and committed to experiencing a deep and profound love of yourself and reconnect to your full access to pleasure, it would be my honor to assist you in rediscovering your “Pleasure Dome.” Click HERE to schedule an Erotic Power Breakthrough Session with me and we’ll create a plan!

Nakedly Menopausal With My Guitar

Beloveds, one of the reasons I’m so passionate about this journey I’m on in helping middle-aged self-identified women reclaim access to their £rotic Power is well, you know, because I am that middle-aged woman. 

Menopause hit me like a freight train running. And before I knew it, I was in the murky swamp of post-menopause, with no signs of a libido: feeling old, tired, invisible and thinking I was completely dried up not only sexually, but it totally felt as though my life-light was going out. 

The sudden waxing and waning of my hormones was wreaking havoc on my body, mind and soul. And what the hell was happening to my sexy hotness that usually turned heads when I walked into the room? Oh my gawd, I was becoming invisible. It was happening. I was becoming, and lean in as I whisper it, an old lady.

Shhhhhhhh…I had to keep it a secret. I wasn’t quite ready for the transition. 

Growing up on stage as a performer since I was a child, I was quite aware of the unfortunate conditioned construct placed upon female performers that once they start aging, they’re in danger of being unattractive and all washed up, and becoming invisible. 

I was feeling it. 

The patriarchy has done quite the number on people in general around our sexuality, but especially on older self-identified women in leading us to believe that we lose ownership of our erotic power as we get older. 

It’s a myth, y’all.

I discovered this for certain when I was introduced to the teachings of the Erotic Blueprints™️ and boom, mama literally got her groove back! 

The more I immersed myself in the teachings, the more I cleared shadows of childhood sexual abuse and returned to a profound love of self. 

I’ve never felt more vibrantly alive and free; not only in my sexuality, but I see it showing up in all areas of my life.

I want this for everyone on the planet.

Let me help you reclaim. Click here to connect with me to see if we’re a good fit for the journey.

Reclaiming the Pleasure Dome

Reclaiming the Pleasure Dome

Pleasure First

We’re not socially conditioned to put pleasure as a priority in our lives. We’re conditioned to obey authority, work long hours, waste our money on material things we think will make us happy, and we’re conditioned to squelch our natural primal sexual desires. However, putting pleasure first, especially our sexual pleasure, keeps us vibrantly alive and in our full power. Being in touch with our “Pleasure Dome” keeps us in successful relationships with our partners, as well as ourselves.

We’ve been taught to believe that sexual pleasure is taboo, bad, sinful and something we just don’t freely talk about. We’re offered a bare minimum, inadequate or even medically incorrect sex education in middle school, then left to figure it out on our own as we haphazardly make our way through romantic relationships, partnerships, marriages, separations and divorces. In the ancient days of some cultures, young men and women were schooled in the art of sex and how to pleasure themselves and their partners. It’s a shame the art of giving and receiving pleasure has been lost in the western culture; especially since being fully expressed sexually keeps us happy, loving and living a life that is radiantly vibrant.

And here’s a nugget of awakening: It’s an absolute myth that sexual pleasure stops at a certain age and that as we get older we’re no longer sexually vital or attractive with our wrinkles, age spots and sagging skin.

Pleasure in the Middle Ages & Beyond

Yes, it’s true that our parts don’t function quite as sharply as they did when we were younger. But, three of the most important aspects of arousal as we age are anticipation, mindfulness and presence. We can also pleasure our lover through touch, taste and creative exploration with no expectations other than the allowing of the giving and receiving of nurturance. The most important thing to remember is to remain playful and open to discovering or re-discovering what feels good as we embrace our aging sexuality.

We can experience hot sexual pleasure for the rest of our lives, with or without a partner, as long as we stay healthy, maintain a sexy attitude by owning our sexuality, and keep open communication with our lovers. In fact, sex is sort of like an anti-aging activity; the more sex we have, the more sexually vibrant we become. Like a good, fine wine, sex can be more satisfying and we can become more adventurous in our explorations of our sexuality as we age.

Exploring the Pleasure Dome

Some may finally feel free to explore and experiment in “rooms” of the Pleasure Dome they had been afraid to venture into or never knew existed at an earlier age. As the saying goes, “with age comes wisdom” and that applies to our sexuality as well. With our aging sexual wisdom comes the understanding that our aging bodies arouse differently. If you’re only playing in one area of your Pleasure Dome, try expanding your sexual expression and become fluent in areas you’ve never considered exploring. Experiment and get your pleasure on!

Tune in and discover what pleasures you or you and your lover. Stretch the boundaries by adding fantasy and sensation play, erotica or kink. Self-pleasure yourselves with each other. Build anticipation by exploring the senses of taste, sound, touch, sight, and smell. Be daring, though discreet, and have sex outside surrounded by nature. Make delicious foods for you and your lover and sensually feed each other. Read or write your own erotic poetry and share with your lover. And, of course, it can be super fun to add new toys to your “pleasure cave” adventures. With toys, don’t forget a good water-based lube!

Find something that relaxes you/your lover such as decadent baths or massages together. Relaxation fosters confidence and comfort and can help with both erectile dysfunction and dryness issues. Also, giving and receiving without any agenda of orgasm is a delicious experience of pure pleasure. The options are truly limitless.

So, join me in the new revolution of sexual healing and erotic freedom! Declare for yourselves a rebirthing, reawakening and reclaiming of your access to full, unabashed, sexual freedom to live a life filled with more pleasure, more sex, and more love!

© 2020 bethlovemore

Busting Through the Patriarchal Chains to Sexual Freedom

“Sexuality is a superpower. Our attractions and repulsions, sexual signals and links, hopes and disappointments go through all of society like a nervous system, permeating every office, every shopping mall, every art exhibition, every conference, every group, every company, every political party. The healing of sexuality is perhaps the most revolutionary step in the present healing work after thousands of years of suppression and neglect.”

Photo by Wryn & Jefry

There are so many beautiful “rooms” in the Pleasure Dome that have been hidden to us by society’s patriarchal conditioning that sexual pleasure is dirty, forbidden, sinful and taboo. But, this is the thing…sexual pleasure is our birthright. At our core, as my teacher and mentor Jaiya has so eloquently expressed, “we are erotically sophisticated beings and our bodies are our instruments of pleasure,” yet most of us do not fully understand how to play our own instrument nor how to instruct our partners on how to do so.

A true understanding of the power of the primordial creative force of our sexuality has been kept from us by the patriarchal religions as a means of domination and control. When we are deeply connected to the sacredness of our sexuality and living a fully sex-expressed life, all areas of our life are affected in a profoundly powerful way. When we are connected to and own our full sexuality, we are living a life filled with vitality, power, pleasure, joy, sovereignty, and most of all, deep love for ourselves and humanity.

Here’s to humanity’s reconnecting to the source of our true power, breaking through the chains of society’s conditioning, and creating a world where everyone is accepted and feels as though they belong. Let freedom ring.

“Chains…each link is connected…creating strength and resilience to withstand the impending….granting a since of freedom…” ~Jefry

*If you’re ready to experience a deep and profound love of yourself and reconnect to your full access to pleasure, it would be my honor to assist you in rediscovering your “Pleasure Dome.” Reach out to me at and we’ll create an action plan for you.

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What Kind of Lover Are You?

During these challenging times, it is more important than ever to keep our body, mind and spirits healthy and well with as much pleasure and vitality as possible. As we are facing the uncertainty of the unknown in our isolation, we are being given the opportunity for deepening the pleasure connection with ourselves and with our partners. Most of us have been so busy being busy that we have flat out lost our connection to our bodies or don’t know how to ask for what we want in the bedroom. No more taboo. As we move into creating new paradigms, It’s time for us all to have what we deserve around our sexuality.

What kind of lover are you? Do you know? Did you know that we all have our own personal erotic blueprint that determines how we like to be fed in our sexuality? The 5 primary Erotic Blueprints™ are: Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky and Shapeshifter. The power of learning the Erotic Blueprints™ is that we get to honor ourselves and our partners by learning what best feeds our own personal blueprints. Take the quiz here to find out what your Erotic Blueprint™ is.

In the Erotic Blueprint™ Breakthrough Course, we get to deep dive into a powerful exploration around what our primary Erotic Blueprint™ is and look at how we can heal it and expand into other blueprints; giving us access to pleasure portals we may not have known existed. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, the Erotic Blueprint™ Breakthrough Course is a game-changer in deepening your relationships and living a life filled with pleasure. To enroll in this life-changing program, click here.

Join me in the new revolution of sexual healing and erotic freedom and rewaken your access to pleasure!