To Know Yourself is the Power

“To know yourself and own yourself—

and live from that—

that’s empowerment.”

– Jaiya

The powerful words above 

from my mentor—

world-renowned Somatic Sexologist

and creator of the Erotic Blueprints™️, 

Jaiya—

are potent medicine, especially now,

for the liberation of us all. 

To know yourself and own who you are…

and express it—freely—

that’s solid gold power 

that No one can take away from you. 

Wanna go on a Pleasure Hunt?

Lovers…
Do me a favor
and let’s go on an impromptu
“pleasure hunt”
with each other.

You game?

Perfect.

Now, take a conscious breathing moment
to get IN touch and present
with yourself…
deeply inhaling in
and slowwwly exhaling out…ahhhhh, yessss

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The Older I Become…the Brighter My Essence Glows

Standing
in the decadent resonance
of my authentic voice…
I speak my truth and desires
effortlessly into existence.

I’m not on the planet to play small.

I’m here to take up as much farking space
as I desire and lead the way for others
to do the same or even better—
especially older women
who’ve been put in the closet
by archaic societal conditioning
to become invisible
as their physical skinbags wither and age.

F*ck that shyte.
Mama’s not going in the closet.

I refuse to shrink and become invisible.

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How does your body like to be played?

Are you fluent in playing all 88 keys of your instrument? Your body, that is—the divinely created instrument uniquely designed to give and receive pleasure.

The more fluent you are as a lover to your own body, the better you can teach your partner how your body desires to be played.

Tip o’ the hat to John Mayer, because Yessss, it’s true—your body is, indeed, a “Wonderland.”

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Reclaiming the Pleasure Dome

Reclaiming the Pleasure Dome

Pleasure First

We’re not socially conditioned to put pleasure as a priority in our lives. We’re conditioned to obey authority, work long hours, waste our money on material things we think will make us happy, and we’re conditioned to squelch our natural primal sexual desires. However, putting pleasure first, especially our sexual pleasure, keeps us vibrantly alive and in our full power. Being in touch with our “Pleasure Dome” keeps us in successful relationships with our partners, as well as ourselves.

We’ve been taught to believe that sexual pleasure is taboo, bad, sinful and something we just don’t freely talk about. We’re offered a bare minimum, inadequate or even medically incorrect sex education in middle school, then left to figure it out on our own as we haphazardly make our way through romantic relationships, partnerships, marriages, separations and divorces. In the ancient days of some cultures, young men and women were schooled in the art of sex and how to pleasure themselves and their partners. It’s a shame the art of giving and receiving pleasure has been lost in the western culture; especially since being fully expressed sexually keeps us happy, loving and living a life that is radiantly vibrant.

And here’s a nugget of awakening: It’s an absolute myth that sexual pleasure stops at a certain age and that as we get older we’re no longer sexually vital or attractive with our wrinkles, age spots and sagging skin.

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